I am quite sure that everyone reading this post has been in a relationship that failed; I have not come across or heard of a person who has only dated and married ONE person in their life. I back up this statement by looking at some divorce rates. A survey conducted in 2002 shows the following percentages of new marriages that ended in divorce:
· Sweden - 54.9%
· Russia - 43.3%
· USA - 45.8%
These stats are shocking and alarming!
BUT WHY DO RELATIONSHIPS FAIL??
Like any other important thing in life, relationships require some work (well, allot of work actually).
I like to compare relationships to running your own business. They require planning, your time, dedication, faith and passion. It is not as easy as it looks to maintain a good healthy relationship.
Here are a few things that could lead to break-ups, not in order of importance though.
I like to compare relationships to running your own business. They require planning, your time, dedication, faith and passion. It is not as easy as it looks to maintain a good healthy relationship.
Here are a few things that could lead to break-ups, not in order of importance though.
Compatibility - This can also be put as "Lack of planning". Do opposites REALLY attract? Sure it's great to have some "spice" in your life. But relationships are about getting your needs met to some point. Constant "clashes" with your partner will definitely lead to lead to unhappiness.
Dating a person for the wrong reasons also won’t get you very far, be it for money or for status. Bottom line is; if you are going to be with this person, you will not only have the pleasure of enjoying all the things you love about them, you will also have to deal with all the things you DON'T like so much about them. Therefore there obviously has to be more things you like than don't like.
Burnout - Although many can carry out romance throughout their entire relationships, the actual honeymoon phase does have to end at some point, in reality. Every relationship has its ups and downs. During the "down", if one partner seems trapped, tired, helpless, depressed or let down, and does not seek to solve this problem with the other party, things can only go downhill from there. And those who can keep the "love" fires burning, not 24 / 7 but off and on regularly during their relationship, have better chances of a happier relationship than those who suffer burnout and don't know where to turn or how to solve their problems.
Pressure - When one partner puts pressure on the other partner for whatever reason, this partner could possibly end up feel like they are not good enough no matter how much they try, and ultimately not want to be in a relationship. Nobody wants to feel like a failure, small or unappreciated. This applies to both the man and woman.
Forgiveness - No one is perfect. Mistakes are a part of life. Those unwilling or unable to forgive can pretty much count on having more unhappy relationships over time. Relationships based or growing on anger, spite, disgust, resentment or other negative feelings associated with lack of forgiveness are like a ticking-time-bomb.
Just the fact that you are willing to work out things is enough to heal a broken heart and can bring healing back to your relationship quickly. Good luck
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