Woman was made from the rib of man.
She was not created from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be stepped upon.
She was made from his side to be equal to him,
beneath his arm to be protected by him,
near his heart to be loved by him.
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Monday, 30 April 2012
Friday, 27 April 2012
In love
I honestly fail to understand why most guys my age prefer not to be in love. What is it about being in love that they despise so much that they rather label themselves as players or bad boys and so forth. I can honestly count with my one hand how many guy friends I have who are openly, happily in love. It's amazing.
Being in love and loved is possibly one of the best feelings in the world.
I decided in my last year of highschool already that when I get to university, I am not going to look for a girl friend but a prospective wife. Yes, things did not go according to plan for a year and I half but I quickly managed to remember this goal that I had set for myself and I did just that.
The only hardest part about this goal of mine was to find someone who felt the same way and had a similar goal in mind.
Just like anything in life, being in love and having a serious relationship does have its challenges and risks.
For example, starting a business is risky but the rewards make it worthwhile! Therefore the risks and challenges should not be enough reason for one not to be in love.
Friday, 13 April 2012
Is it really love?
Do you love your partner? Yes? Good. In that case I hope that means you understand what love is.
I have noticed recently that the majority of us young people tend to think and believe that we are in love where in actual fact we are not. The word love is being thrown around way too much and I feel it is misunderstood. I am referring to the love between two partners and not the love shared between family and friends.
There is a big difference between real love and emotional attachment. When we have emotional attachment to someone, we need their attention and presence. Often attachment occurs out of a sense of insecurity.
Strong relationships need a certain level of detachment. We need to be able to accept others for what they are, rather than expecting them to give us all their attention.
Sunday, 8 April 2012
Understanding your partner
I was speaking to my father over dinner last night about love and life, and he said something to me that sparked a chain of thoughts in my mind. He said to me "you know, it takes years for you to actually understand someone". We were talking about things like divorce.
This the made me think allot, recalling that Iv seen so many couples (myself included), happily in love but forever fighting/arguing over petty things, which most of the time you would later sit together and laugh about.
I personally think the reason for this is simply because we are different. Think about this way. You were raised in a certain kind of environment by your family, you were taught what is right or wrong from an early age which is now engraved in the back of your mind. Now the same goes for your partner, they were also brought up in a certain type of environment with the relevant rules etc.
The problem is, we weren't all taught how to handle certain situations the same way, some simply weren't taught what others were taught etc..which then make us all different. This then becomes an issue when two people fall in love and then "become one" because they now have opposing views on some things, and that causes conflict where 1 of the partners would have to sacrifice or "change their way of thinking, (which normally only happens after a fight)
My point is this, early in a relationship, admit to yourself and your partner that YOU GUYS ARE DIFFERENT and chances are you will fight about certain things in future, but that does not mean you love him/her any less, it only means that you are willing to continue learning more about him/her and discover what they like and don't like.
Couples fight all the time! Its life, its not easy accommodating someone in your life on a full time basis. If you really love him/her, these fights will never be the,end of your relationship for as long as you are still willing to learn about your partner.
Lastly, "don't try chance your partner to be like you", that should happen on its own with time. I sure you've heard that couples married for over 20years eventually actually start to look alike.
Remember that you fell in love with your partner for their individual self, so why now change that which you fell in love with?
This the made me think allot, recalling that Iv seen so many couples (myself included), happily in love but forever fighting/arguing over petty things, which most of the time you would later sit together and laugh about.
I personally think the reason for this is simply because we are different. Think about this way. You were raised in a certain kind of environment by your family, you were taught what is right or wrong from an early age which is now engraved in the back of your mind. Now the same goes for your partner, they were also brought up in a certain type of environment with the relevant rules etc.
The problem is, we weren't all taught how to handle certain situations the same way, some simply weren't taught what others were taught etc..which then make us all different. This then becomes an issue when two people fall in love and then "become one" because they now have opposing views on some things, and that causes conflict where 1 of the partners would have to sacrifice or "change their way of thinking, (which normally only happens after a fight)
My point is this, early in a relationship, admit to yourself and your partner that YOU GUYS ARE DIFFERENT and chances are you will fight about certain things in future, but that does not mean you love him/her any less, it only means that you are willing to continue learning more about him/her and discover what they like and don't like.
Couples fight all the time! Its life, its not easy accommodating someone in your life on a full time basis. If you really love him/her, these fights will never be the,end of your relationship for as long as you are still willing to learn about your partner.
Lastly, "don't try chance your partner to be like you", that should happen on its own with time. I sure you've heard that couples married for over 20years eventually actually start to look alike.
Remember that you fell in love with your partner for their individual self, so why now change that which you fell in love with?
