Can you imagine life without your partner?

Have you ever considered what life would be like without your man or woman? How it would impact your life, and what things in your life would change as a result thereof etc

Chances are, when things are going well in the relationship, such questions are the very last thing on your mind. This can be both good and bad, but more to the good side.

It is good that you dont ask yourself these questions because it implies that everything is really going well, and you have absolutely no reason to doubt the future of your relationship. In the same breathe of air, it can be bad if you constantly ask yourself these same questions. It implies that for some reason you keep on re-evaluating the relationship. There is nothing wrong with re-evaluating your relationship, but too much of it means there is something that's bothering you which is not being attended to or solved, and that is not good.

As I always say, your happiness is something very important and within YOUR control, and the best advice I can give you if you more than often find yourself re-evaluting things is you need to sit down with your partner, stop beating around and work together and solve any issue you or he/she has, no matter how big or small it is. Reach some kind of conclusion.

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Staying in an unhappy relationship

Why is it that some people decide to stay in unhappy relationships? This is rather puzzling isn't it. I'm sure you know of atleast one person in your life who has been in such a situation?

Although there are literally thousands of reasons why, I'm going to mention a few.

1) Fear of the unknown - Being in a serious relationship suggests that you invested your time and effort into the relationship. Furthermore, it means that you have developed a certain lifestyle and habits which directly results from you being in a relationship. Now letting go and having to change your habits and lifestyle may seem like too much for some people.

2) Shame or Failure - It's just not easy for you to get to a point where you can admit that the relationship has run its course and should now end. As specially having to explain to other people that you and so and so are not together anymore because of this and that. It's even worse when there are children involved.

3) Things will change - This should have probably been number one on the list! Obviously every relationship has its ups and downs you know, but there is a very fine line between normal "disagreement" type of arguments and unacceptable abusive arguments. The trick here is to critically analyse your own situation once every while. I.e do you argue about the same things over and over again?

4) Security - This can be associated with number 1 and 3. Some people are with their partners because they NEED something from them. Be it money, fame, a roof over their head, etc, and the fear of loosing all of that is not worth it.

(My suggestion - your happiness is something you should never ever under any circumstance give away. Therefore, be objective and really ask yourself if you are doing what makes you happy)

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