Dealing with cheating

This post goes out to all those who have been cheated on by their partners...yes, girls do cheat as well if you didn't know.

Cheating hey, the first that that comes to my mind is why, why cheat. If you are not happy you should simply excuse yourself from a relationship, but that is a topic for another day.

So, u have come to realise that your significant other has cheated on you, what do you do, how do you move forward with life?
1st and foremost, stay calm! Take a breather and get all your facts together. There is nothing worse than accusing someone of cheating whereby they weren't cheating.
Be objective and open minded with the information you are getting, YOU need to analyse firstly if you are getting info from a reliable source, and lastly ASK (not accuse/tell) your partner if they cheated on you.

Now lets assume that you did get cheated on. The ball is really in your court.
I do not condone cheating in anyway, but there is a difference between for e.g "you had a fight with your partner, he/she got drunk and ended up kissing that guy/girl who always flirted with him/her" and "your bf/gf has been sleeping around behind your back". This is why you need to analyse everything objectively, this may be difficult for some people.

The intensity of your relationship also counts here, I.e how long you have been together. If you feel that it really was a mistake and your partner is really sorrowful for what they did, by all means I recommend that you forgive them and continue being with them. I must warn you though that it is not going to be easy, and your relationship will change, but will heal with time.

I speak from both sides of the coin, as a person who has cheated and a person who has been cheated on and chose to forgive.

Choosing to stay with a person who has cheated on you is not easy, it hurts, even after years, and the cheater has to make it up to you. So it creates a certain upper hand to the one who got cheated on, and its then easy to take advantage. So as well, be careful not to take advantage, as this will lead to PLENTY of fights.

I wish you all the best

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